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Why There Is An Internet. [Apr. 23rd, 2006|04:34 pm]
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ms_anthropy
[Current Mood |Doing The Happy Dance]

Seriously. I am so mad that I didn't think of this first.
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Just joining us? Moderator's Email is down, please be patient with me [Apr. 15th, 2006|01:07 pm]
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ms_anthropy
My email is currently down, so if you're just joining this community please be patient, I can't get the notifications to put you in the list until it's fixed, which may take a couple of days. Thanks!
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Dear Gods, I Have Got To Get Out More [Apr. 14th, 2006|03:40 pm]
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ms_anthropy
[Current Mood |geeky]

"Dear Mr. and Mrs. The Explorer...
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This Kind Of Thing Gives Me Nightmares... [Apr. 12th, 2006|02:23 pm]
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ms_anthropy
[Current Mood |depresseddepressed]

5-year-old boy calls 911 when his mother has a heart attack and is scolded by the operator for "playing with the phone." I just keep thinking about the three hours the kid spent alone with his dying/dead mother on the floor before someone finally came. Good god.

The article mentions another pending case where a woman who was shot in the head by her husband was asked if she "had mental problems" and was told to put the husband on the phone. Wow.

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Scenes From The Garden [Apr. 3rd, 2006|09:42 pm]
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ms_anthropy
[Current Mood |cheerfulcheerful]

(Crossposted from my personal journal)
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Another From Customers_Suck: Train-Wreck Parenting Or...? [Apr. 3rd, 2006|12:56 pm]
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ms_anthropy
Refreshed to see someone who was keeping a close eye on their kids in the mall, I smiled and said that my mother used to always say the same thing to me.

"Oh, yes," she replied. "There are some real sickos out there. I've always told my kids that if they run off, someone will kidnap them and murder them, but first they will do horrible things to them. I've showed my son pictures of murder victims' bodies so that he knows what can happen to him."


Jezus, lady...

I'm curious how other parents handle it - how do you go about warning them and teaching them safety without making them paranoid and afraid? Or is it better to be paranoid and afraid than chopped up and dead (as one friend of mine insists?) How much is too much information?

Have you ever had an incident, such as calling a Code Adam or something similar? I have, twice. Once in Wal-Mart he was playing hide-n-seek in the clothes racks and we found him just as the hand was on the switch to lock the entire place down, and once at the circus when he was four and wandered off to go to the bathroom by himself when Daddy wasn't moving fast enough through the crowd. That one was festive - security guards scrambling every which way, and the entire departing civic center crowd suddenly funnelled through one set of doors past a cop holding a snapshot I'd jerked out of my wallet while I stood there pulling out my hair and calmly plotting the quickest, most efficient way to kill myself if they found him in five separate trash cans.

Then there was the time when he was three when he decided to walk to grandmas by himself without telling anyone. I don't even want to talk about that one. I still have nightmares.

OK, I guess what I'm getting at is that I can completely understand the impulse towards overkill on the subject, and while showing a small child photos of mangled dead bodies is going too far, who knows whether the woman was just nuts or whether she was driven to desperation trying to protect a chronically wandering child? Mine is pretty good about it, and thank the gods the incidents I've described were pretty much the only serious ones. We had to break the public hide-n-seek habit when he was a toddler, and formulating and enforcing a Crowded-Amusement-Park policy was a real challenge, but overall we've been extremely fortunate. I can only imagine what it would be like to deal with a child who wasn't more or less cooperating with the effort to make sure he lives to see puberty.

I handled this with my extremely gregarious child by telling him that while most people were nice, there were a few people out there who are sick in their minds or just bad people, who might hurt children if they get a chance. I told him that it's rare and nothing to worry about, but every so often kids do get kidnapped by bad people and hurt badly or even killed, and that's why he has to learn to be safe and to stay close where I can protect him until he's old enough to know how to protect himself. That's also why he has to stay where I (or the designated adult he's supposed to be with) always know where he is. I also let him know that for his own safety, this was one area where no excuses would be acceptable. No "I was just playing," no "I played a joke on mommy!" This is an ironclad rule and breaking it will result in truly memorable punishment.

We started telling him a simplified version of this as soon as he was old enough to understand words, and before that I actually used one of those kiddie leashes (and got screamed at for a child abuser by some random old lady, but that's another story.)

What are your thoughts?
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Please Tell Me I'm Not The Only One This Sort Of Thing Happens To... [Mar. 31st, 2006|07:05 pm]
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ms_anthropy
[Current Location |Anywhere But Here]
[Current Mood |crazycrazy]
[Current Music |The Little Voices Say I Need A Vacation]

*wail, rant, foam at mouth*
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Parenting On The Bizarro World [Mar. 31st, 2006|03:17 pm]
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ms_anthropy
Still more from the world of People Who Shouldn't Breed.

I've got a sick lil' guy on my hands (strep throat, ugh!) and since I can't really get anything done today in more than three minute increments between requests for juice/a pillow/a card game/etc, I'm spending a lot of nap time browsing mindlessly.

Still fascinated by the train-wrecks over at customers_suck. I'm kind of freaked out by the fact that this sort of thing is a recurring theme and retail employees don't seem to realize such behavior is insanely dangerous/illegal/actionable. If something happened to the kid, she or the store would get sued. If the wrong person came and just took him away, no one would know the difference. Am I alone in thinking that some standing policies are desperately needed?
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(no subject) [Mar. 31st, 2006|01:59 pm]
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ms_anthropy
What do we think? Stoning? Castration? Or should we let him off with a mere beheading?

Man, there are a *lot* of shitty-parent stories on customers_suck.
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Homeschooling High School.... [Mar. 25th, 2006|10:30 pm]
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just_immortal
Is anyone here homeschooling older children? My son is almost 13, so we still have a little while, but I wanted to start looking into it.Right now we do school rather loosely. He went to public school last year (his one and only year) and so I know he is at grade level, I am not worried about that.He is very self motivated and has always learned what he was interested in. I am just not really sure what I am looking for. I had never planned on homeschooling this level, but it is really what he wants. Anyone have any links, or any useful info for me....about anything... independent study, earning credits, anything at all.:-)

Thank you in advance,
immortal
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